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I gathered eighteen picks of some of the neatest DIY fashion tutorials. Some are easy and others may not be so easy, but they all come with rewarding results. Some even come with free patterns! (Feel free to direct us to a link to your favorite DIY fashion tutorial by commenting below.)

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Cassette Tape Wallet

Make a neat little case from your money out of cassette tapes. -via Chezlin

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My Melody Beanie

This cute tutorial teaches you how to make a My Melody beanie. In case you don't know who "My Melody" is, she's a character created by Sanrio. -via Kawaii Crafts.

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Headbands that won't hurt!

This DIY tutorial teaches you how to make headbands that won't give you a headache! -via Mmmcrafts

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Tarina O-Ring Necklace

This DIY tutorial teaches you how to turn a charm into a cute crochet necklace. -via Vickie Howell at Craft Zine.

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Statement Necklace

This snazzy DIY Statement Necklace is made with marbles and yarn. (This requires you to download a PDF file for the pattern.) -via Stitch Diva

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Reshape your t-shirt!

This tutorial teaches you how to turn a plain, shapeless t-shirt into something a bit more fashionable. The person who created this had actually paid only $1 for the t-shirt. -via Eco Etsy

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Spring Ruffle Top

This tutorial teaches you how to make a spring ruffle top (pretty self-explanatory). -via Made by Rae

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Shirred Pillowcase Top

This tutorial teaches you how to make a top out of a pillowcase. -via Betz White

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Free Reversible Hostess Apron Pattern

This tutorial is considered a great tutorial from beginners. -by Modest Maven

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Child's Apron Pattern

This apron can make anyone's daughter feel like a "big girl" as she's baking cookies with mommy! -via Sew Liberated

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Yoga Capris

This DIY tutorial teaches you how to make yoga capris out of short sleeves. It also has a video giving you step by step instructions. -via Luvinthemommyhood

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Jordy Bag

Learn how to make a spacey tote bag. -via Jordy Mackenzie.

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Buttercup Sewing Pattern

Rae is giving away a free sewing pattern for this purse in her blog. -via Made by Rae

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Blue Blossom Bag

I love this tutorial. It teaches you how to make a tote bag out of a toddler's shirt. -via Darling Petunia

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Make a Placemat Purse

Learn how to make a purse out of a placemat. -via Loraine Blanken

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Crochet Bingo/Craft Bag

Learn how to crochet a bag for bingo and craft supplies. (Grannies will love this too!) -via The Art of Crochet by Teresa

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Butterfly Brooches

Learn how to make butterfly brooches with buttons. -via Bugs and Fishes by Lupin

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Lip Balm Holder

Sick of your lip balm getting lost under all that junk in your purse? Make a lip balm holder! -via Carina's Craft Blog

Oils for the Hair and Skin (Part 2)

In Oils for the Hair and Skin (Part 1), we zoomed in on almond oil, castor oil, chamomile oil, coconut oil, eucalyptus oil, geranium oil, jojoba oil, and lemon oil.  Now, we're going to talk about seven more oils.  Check them out below:

Myrrh Oil- For the hair, myrrh oil can treat a dry scalp and combat dandruff. It tightens the pores of the scalp, gripping onto the hair follicles tighter, preventing the hair from falling out.  It's also known to help get rid of lice. For the skin, it's great for treating athlete's foot, itching, chapped skin, and eczema. Warning: Too much use of this natural oil can be toxic. Pregnant women should also refrain from using this oil, as it can stimulate contractions of the uterus. (However, it's great to use for that purpose, and is also said to relieve pain during childbirth.)

Neem Oil- For the hair, neem oil is good for repairing damaged follicles. It also conditions coarse hair. It's also great at treating a dry, itchy scalp.  For the skin, neem oil moisturizes it when it's dry. It can serve as a repellent, keeping bugs from wanting to land onto your skin. (Here's a neat little tip If neem oil enters a bug's system, it blocks the hormones from working, preventing them from laying eggs. If they do lay eggs, the eggs never hatch. This can also work as a contraceptive for both men and women.) It's also good for eczema.

Rose Oil- For the hair, rose oils strengthens its roots. For the skin, rose oil adds moisture, fights against aging, reduces the appearance of scars, repairs damaged skin cells, and treats skin burns.

Rosemary Oil- For the skin, rosemary oil stimulates the hair follicles, promoting longer, thicker hair. It reduces hair loss and promotes a healthy scalp, fighting against scalp disorders like alopecia.  It rids the hair of dandruff. It's also believed that it slows down the graying of hair. For the skin, it evens out its tone and keeps it moisturized.  It's also good for skin conditions like dermatitis, eczema, and psoriasis.

Olive Oil- For the hair, olive oil can be used as a great moisturizer and leave-in conditioner. For the skin, olive oil is great for removing eye makeup (including mascara) and treats the skin afterward. It's ideal for moisturizing dry skin. One can add it to their bath, gently scraping the skin to help remove excess dirt. It can also be used as a shaving cream for those with sensitive skin. When mixed and melted with beeswax, olive oil can make a great lip balm, keeping the lips soft and smooth.

Peppermint Oil- For the hair, peppermint oil removes dandruff and fights against lice. For the skin, peppermint oil moisturizes the skin.  It combat oily skin. It can also be used as a cleanser and is ideal for removing makeup. However, peppermint oil is not recommended for people with allergies.

Tea Tree Oil- For the hair, tea tree oil moisturizes a dry scalp, removing dandruff. It can also help remove head lice. For the skin, tea tree oil is great for abrasions, acne, athlete's foot, blisters, boils, cold sores, herpes, insect bites, eczema, impetigo, minor cuts, ringworm, warts, and psoriasis.

Suicidal Jasmine

June 14th, 2009

Dear Diary,

Last week, we got a new employee in the department. Her name is Brittany.  Brittany is just about the same height and size as I am.  About 5 foot 7,  petite, caramel-complected with freckles, and curly red hair.  She's only twenty years old, but she looks as if she's a decade older.  It must be because of all the stress she's been put through at such a young age.

Since my boss felt that I'm the most knowledgeable out of the bunch, she has me teaching her all the ropes.  As you may know, I don't get along well with people in general.  However, this woman is different.  It's almost as if we were siblings in our past lives.  I was a little nervous having to explain everything, but she made it all less "painful" with her sarcastic humor.  She could even sense how ruthless our fellow co-workers could be. After I showed her the normal routine of checking e-mails and answering voicemail, she said "So how often am I supposed to change the diapers of our co-workers?"

Last night, she invited me over for dinner.  She served baked chicken, oyster dressing, macaroni and cheese, soft, moist cornbread muffins, and spicy, ham hock flavored collard greens.   There was plenty to eat.  I made a comment about how she may have cooked way too much.  Her reply was "I know, but I had to make it to where the kids will have something to eat for the next few days, while I figure out how I'm going to get food on the table afterward. I don't get my paycheck until another week from now."

She lives in poverty, surrounded by the typical drug dealers, addicts, and liquor stores that may come with its package. However, despite all the untidiness on the outside, her apartment is kept very neat and clean.  She's soft spoken.  She's raising three kids on her own. All in which walk all over her, despite how gentle she treats them.

Although all of her kids have the same father and he's to the only person that she's ever been with, people from the outside looking in perceive her as promiscuous.   This makes her prey to rude men who spew out sexual comments towards her in front of her children.  She spoke on how she feels resentment towards Chris (their father) because of this and that if it weren't for his neglecting her and the children, she wouldn't have to put up with the rude remarks and stereotypes.  According to Brittany, Chris would only come around when he wanted something.  Her statement proved true when he dropped by unexpectedly, after being missing in action for four whole months, interrupting our dinner with a loud knock on the door.

This took Brittany by surprise, as they usually don't have visitors on a regular basis, and she almost forgot about Chris.  "Daddy!" The kids screamed, as they ran away from the dinner table without asking to be excused.  It was almost as if they favored their absentee dad more than they did the mother who was always present.  That must really be a smack in the face for Brittany, as she works her behind off to make sure that they're taken care of.

Brittany got up from the table and made Chris a plate.  She then sat back down at the table and made the kids sit back down as well, staring at the empty chair as if she were expecting Chris to sit in it.  The kids probably would have refused to sit down, if they didn't assume that their dad was going to sit down at the table as well.  Rather than sitting at the table, he took his 6'4, 260lbs frame into the living room and made himself comfortable.  The children left the table a second time to keep him company, and Brittany sighed.  They didn't even care to finish the rest of their food.

Brittany then got up and went off to the bathroom and I was left at the table eating by myself.  She was in the bathroom for a very long time. When Chris finished his plate, he walked back into the kitchen and made several more plates for the road.  He took so much that there wasn't going to be any left over for the kids.

"Come over here and give me a hug, youngin's.  I'm about to go." Chris said while carrying two plastic bags full of the dinner that was meant to feed the children.

"Nooooo, daddy!  Don't go!" sobbed the children.  He gave them quick hugs and went on his way. He didn't even wait until Brittany came out of the bathroom.

He stayed no more than an hour.  Like Brittany said, he just took what he wanted and left.

I guess Brittany and I have much in common.

Father's DayAs Father’s Day approaches, I am mourning the loss of two fathers, my biological father, and my actual father. For at least another few weeks, both men are still alive. Still I mourn the loss of what could have been and what may never be.

My biological father has been absent for most of my life. He and my mother were “just kickin’ it,” he said. Weeks before I was born, that guy disappeared from my mother’s life and married the first of my three stepmothers. That guy spent the next decade and a half raising my half brother, who is a mere ten weeks younger than me, and my half sister.

Some would say things turned out okay for my mother despite the fact that she had her first heartbreak when she was eighteen, single, and pregnant. When I was two, she married a man with a “good job.” He adopted me. They went on to have two more children and are still married three decades later.

My father, the one who raised me, worked hard and treated me no worse than he treated my brothers, his biological children. Unfortunately, my father’s preferred coping mechanism for dealing with that “good job” was excessive drinking. The effects of decades of excessive drinking have taken a toll on his body. He asked to go home after a four month stay in the hospital. The doctors don’t expect him to be alive on Father’s Day.

My biological father and I haven’t spoken in over a year. This is not unusual for us. We didn’t meet until I was twelve, our personalities clash, and I haven’t resolved my abandonment issues. As I go through the process of losing my real father, I wonder if I should try to have a relationship with my biological father. Could talking to him help? Would it make things worse? Or is it just not the right thing to do right now?

It will probably be a while before my biological father and I speak again. The reality of him is never as satisfying as the illusion I created the year I was eleven. Assuming life and time permit, I may reach out in the future, when I am more ready to accept him as he is.

How then do I deal with the loss of the only father I’ve really ever known while having a living father that I don’t really know or like? I’ll probably deal with it the way I deal with everything else, by reading a book or finding someone to talk to. Or maybe I’ll deal with it by writing.

Father’s Day was never my favorite holiday. It most likely will never be. This year and every year after this one, Father’s Day will be different for me than any Father’s Day before this one. Although Father's Day may remind me of what I have lost, it doesn’t have to be a day of loss or a reminder of what I don’t have. Father’s Day can be the day that I remember that once upon a time, I was lucky enough to have two fathers, no matter how imperfect they were.