One thing that you must always do to keep your relationship alive is see how your mate is doing. Too often, we dismiss each others’ feelings and we rarely ever care to see how they’re doing, or how we make them feel. Ask them how their day went. Ask them how they’re feeling inside. You may never know exactly everything that they’re feeling, but it would be best to try and know as much as possible. If they’re having a problem, ask them if there’s anything you can do to help make the situation a little bit better for them.
This also gives them a chance to vent about other things that they may have held inside. Make sure to be a complete listener while they talk and sympathize with them. Don’t cut in to judge them or point the finger back at them; it will only make things worse. Don’t switch the conversation around and make it about yourself unless they want you to. Set up a foundation where they can always feel comfortable with you enough to confide in you whenever something’s bothering them.
Get them to get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Doing the same date routines that consist of going out to dinner and to the movies can get pretty tired after a while. Try doing other things like taking salsa lessons, taking art classes, horse back riding, visiting a real life haunted house, or just chilling in an open field under the stars as you talk about whatever you like.
You can even go shopping to an adult store or an adult section at a store like Spencer Gifts. Purchase things that you normally don’t use and incorporate that into your bedroom life. There’s all kinds of neat things you can purchase like cuffs, adult board games, edible clothing, and glow in the dark body paints. Try a new thing for each session. Dress up. Role play. You can even get a little bit Hollywood with it and write out scripts for the both of you to act out. Get Steven Spielberg up in that mofo!
Leave little love notes laying around for them to see and pick up. Make sure it’s in an area that you know they come across and inspect on a regular basis. In the notes, tell them how handsome or beautiful you feel they are. Tell them what you like about them and why you chose to be with them. Flirt with them. Say unclean thoughts.
You can even get a bit more romantic with it by having them do a treasure hunt. For example: You could leave a note in the bathroom that says, “I love you. Now go to the living room and look down at the coffee table.” When they get to the coffee table, you could leave another note and lead them on to the next clue until it eventually leads them to a present. Whether it’s a small gift or simply you.
Tell them how you feel by word of mouth as well. This kind of piggy back rides off the love note idea, only you’re saying it verbally. It would be best to say it when it’s least expected because when it’s not said in the heat of a “love moment,” it may come off as more genuine because you’re not saying it when it’s cliché to say it. If your heart beats fast every time your lover is near you, interrupt a random moment while they’re reading the newspaper or fixing something to eat and let them know.
Don’t look to just Valentine’s Day to do these things. Make every day Valentine’s Day.
Now go add some spice into the mix!
Tags: Love, relationships, Valentine
