Once upon a time you enjoyed your luxurious loose coils, ringlets, fuzz and frizz. But, now after months and months of deciding which hairstyle to prepare for after your weekend wash do you do: banded hair, Bantu knotted hair, braided hair, braid out hair, twisted hair, twist out hair, half braided, half twisted, half braided, half out, coils, up-dos, afro puffs, extensions, straight hair, flat hair, curled hair? You’re just plum tarred and feathered with all this endless concern about your hair. Once upon a time you enjoyed trying all the different hair products with each and every hairstyle, testing them on a wet set or dry set etc. But, now, the love affair is over. You are tired. You’ve come to a crossroads.
Do I go back to the creamy crack aka chemical relaxer?
or
Do I do another BC aka Big Cut?
or
Do I travel into unchartered territory and lock it down?
Many with locks come to this crossroads and it can be a difficult to decide what to do. With conviction you may have gone natural, determined to never pollute your crown with toxic chemicals again. Or naively, you may have progressed into the unchartered waters of natural hair to find that you love the versatility of your hair unadulterated. But that time has come and gone. Now, the resentment towards your hair has built. You didn’t plan on having almost all your waking, free hours on the weekend spent in marathon detangling sessions before washing, during washing and after washing, then deal with the challenge of styling your hair and setting your hair. By the time you are free from your hair, it’s Monday! Time to do it all over again. And, let’s say you did a vicious twist that sets all weekend with fierce definition and shine and perfect coils at the end. Then it rains. Poof. Just like in your relaxed days, you’re back at square one, running from the rain, humidity and frizz as you’re hair morphs back into a fuzz ball. So what do you do? You feel yourself wanting to fuss at your hair for not cooperating. You’re really not liking this new feeling welling up from the inside and you; and, you want to be in love with your hair all over again. So, you look at the scissors and think:
Should I? Nah.
Then, you think about taking a quick drive to the drug store for your old mainstay Dark N Lovely™, Nah.
Then you remember there is a third option. Locks!
You wonder if locks are for you. You have never considered locks before and you feel like a newbie natural all over again. There’s so much information you don’t know locks, where do you begin? You never intended to lock, in fact, you didn’t’ go natural to lock and locks were not a part of the plan. But, locks sure beat options A and B. It took two years to grow all of this hair and you sure as heck couldn’t go back to the crack now that you KNOW what it is. So, you begin the process, researching on the art of locking.
So, here you are along this natural journey, every weekend, week and day spent lamenting over your hair and out of no where, locks have chosen you. And, if you decide to concede, you soon learn that locking is a process that is about loosing self and self control. It’s a journey about learning what your hair wants to do versus what you want to do with your hair. Not only are the styling habits different for locked hair; but, the mental shift is nerve wracking. You wonder what do you do if you aren’t worrying about your hair? You’ve spent almost every waking hour in the planning process for your hair. Your hair needs you, you rationalize. But, no, it doesn’t, you need it. You’ve become dependent on your hair. And, locking would require you to leave your hair alone and let it frizz and get wild without your intervention. You wonder if you can do it. You wonder if you are strong enough to resist the temptation of resetting your hair when the frizz sets in. From perms to natural hair, your whole day revolves around your hair. The thought of discovering who you are without this concern is daunting; yet, it is challenging and empowering leading to growth along a path to a new, exciting glorious journey to self -realization if you decide to travel on the journey to locks.
If you see yourself in any of these scenerios, it may be time for you to lock your hair down. There are other physical signs that your hair may be ready to lock:
- Your hair stays in tangled in knots when left loose
- Your hair continues to split and tear
- Your hair tangles easily, even with good conditioner on it
- Your hair grows in protective styles, and looses length from damage when worn loose
- Your hair dries out easily when worn loose
- Your hair begins to matt on its own when worn in any style
- Your hair does not like to be manipulated, and will shed and tear easily
- Your hair sheds a lot when worn loose
- Your hair soaks up moisture like a sponge
- Your hair matts when washing
If your love affair is over and you decide that locking is journey that you want to take there are plenty of resources, forums and albums of lockers out there that are willing and ready to help you. Just like going natural is a process, locking is too. The good part of locking after being a loose natural, is you have already explored the beautiful creation of your hair and all of its textures. You have explored its likes and dislikes. You have worn many products and hairstyles and now you are ready to embark upon another journey of self exploration that will take you to another level as you put self aside and regain the art of self exploration, engaging in other journeys that need your hands, mind, body and time.
Apple Cider Vinegar – ACV
Baking Soda (Sodium Bicarbonate)
Molasses
Eggs
Bananas- Rich in potassium, natural oils, carbohydrates and vitamins. Helps soften and shine and protects the hair’s natural elasticity i.e. strengthens, and controls dandruff.
In the 1900s, natural hair wearers started to straighten their natural tresses for many reasons, whether it was the belief that straighter hair was more manageable, or economic/mobility reasons (i.e. get into better schools and/or obtain better jobs, or simply to look ‘hip’). During this time, the ‘conk’ made with potatoes, eggs, and lye became a popular method for men to straighten their hair. The women wore press-n-curl type styles such as curls combed into waves or pageboys.
We come across so many articles on things that are ‘good’ for natural hair, how about taking a look at things that are not good – things that natural hair hates? Here are the tops on my list.




